Civilization

Knights had an honor code that ONLY applied to other knights. In other words to people who also knew the rules and would abide by them.

Outlawry is a policy of saying if you refuse to follow the rules, you are no longer protected by them. You can no longer expect OTHER people to follow the honor code while you abuse the system.

Good laws should account for the variety of life. Different strokes for different folks. 

A civilized society accounts for the inevitable existence of social friction and seeks a means to lubricate it.

It doesn't seek to intentionally create sheeple. I think of that as domesticating people rather than civilizing them.

Civilized people seek to live and let live, to avoid or minimize conflict if possible. To sidestep unnecessary trouble.

A civilizing force doesn't seek to train people to be professional victims who will not defend themselves, will not stand up for themselves, will always defer to the interests of others at their expense.

There must be some tolerance for young people still learning the rules, young adults who weren't raised right needing an adjustment period and opportunity to course correct and the reality that no one is perfect, no one gets it right ALL the time.

Being too draconian and hard line is actively counterproductive to fostering civilized society.

It's equally poisonous to be spineless and too accommodating and try too hard to reform people who aren't making any effort to reform themselves and are clearly just gaming the system. That actively rewards evil and actively removes rights from all members of society making a good faith effort to play by the rules and generally behave decently.