Unsolved

I asked about a couple of movies on Metafilter, trying to identify them. Someone identified one of them and the other remained unsolved.

I probably only saw the very end of the film. It was probably on HBO in my teens.

The scene was set in seemingly the Middle East and it's likely set in World War I. A woman, probably British, is engaged to get married and she indicates she feels he won't want her because of things that happened during the war.

He swears he will never ask the details. The context suggests he believes she was probably gang raped or passed around while in captivity.

A beautiful young man shows up on a horse and they are clearly quite fond of each other. She apparently had a torrid affair and when her fiance is upset, she reminds him he said he would never ask.

The scene has stuck with me all these decades because of the detail that being brutalized is forgivable but having a nice time is apparently not.

There is a lot of literature dealing with sexual assault, its impact on a woman etc. and it is extremely common to assume that women have had terrible things happen to them. The reality seems to be young women are typically punished and decried as immoral if they actually enjoyed themselves or if they like young men and our standard narrative is that making the mistake of liking men and liking sex leads to ruin for a woman, such as teen pregnancy.

I don't know how we escape such patterns when even fiction mostly doesn't allow us to imagine such a thing.