Sweet Emotion
Desmond Morris wrote The Naked Ape in 1967. I likely read it in my teens. My takeaways from the book are: 1. Humans are highly sexual. 2. Unlike many mammals, we often engage in sex for reasons other than procreation and emotional bonding is an extremely big part of that. Men that I had important relationships to tended to want a live person meeting their needs. They typically weren't interested in porn. I eventually concluded these were men for whom the emotional piece was extremely important and my experience was these were generally nicer men who treated women better than average by quite a lot. They saw a sexual relationship as primarily a social and emotional relationship and they treated women like whole human beings both in ways other men didn't typically treat me and also to a much greater degree. This conclusion took me some time to get to because these were men typically involved with me "as their side dish." These were typically men in a serious relations...